Category Archives: Law & Society
Study on non-heterosexual females
Are you a woman who is NOT heterosexual?
If YES, then you are invited to participate in my project focusing on women’s health and healthcare experiences in the greater Montreal area!
To participate, you need to:
- Be at least 18 years old
- Identify as bisexual, pansexual, queer, questioning, or anything other than heterosexual (even if you are not “out”) (trans* women included!)
- Have accessed healthcare in the last 10 years
Looking Back: BDSM Group May 3, 2015
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Contessa_Alura(a) opened the meeting, mentioning the ALCC(b)’s resources (books, workshops, counselling specialists) and Safe Space Policy. Participants were encouraged to ask questions and share their personal opinions while always respecting the opinions and tastes of all other participants. This meeting will be about Mistress_Magnum(c) and slave_feel(d) sharing their real-life BDSM(e) experience: They will share thoughts about their relation. Read the rest of this entry
BDSM & The Law, and Bondage Group Fun
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In the BDSM & The Law workshop, Maitre Corbeau covered a lot of important things for people to keep in mind when it comes to BDSM and dealing with law, and why there is still some progress to be made. It is important for people to know their rights, and how to deal with things should police be called when playing (keyword: playing/sceneing, not actual abuse!). So much more still remains to be done to ensure we can play without worrying! Read the rest of this entry
Know your rights! / Connaître vos droits!
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BDSM and the Law
This workshop was very informative for myself and everyone who attended. I was joined by the …. who provided a much more in-depth explanation of the legal terms I discussed and provided court rulings as examples. Understanding the law and interpreting the law are two differnt subjects and when you inform people that asking for or receiving bodily harm in Canada is illegal… people who engage in BDSM are terrified and anyone considering experimenting in this type of play, quickly decide against it. We use the term RACK (risk aware consensual kink) to mean practicing BDSM responsibly. That includes Read the rest of this entry
BDSM & The Law
BDSM & The Law, Sunday November 13, 2011
Incredibly how little we really know about BDSM and the law and more importantly, what is really legal and what we can get in trouble for. Very important workshop! If you missed it, sign up for last chance Nov.23rd.
Three points I took away:
1) BDSM IS NOT ILLEGAL IN CANADA!!!
2) It is very important that “STOP”, “NO” and “YES” really mean what they mean. Safewords are not reliable!!!
3) You have a responsibility as a parent to keep your kinky things locked and out of sight of your children.
– Contessa
RED LIGHT WALKING TOUR
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Friday September 2nd
As part of the Montreal Fetish Weekend- King and Candyass are pleased to offer the Redlight tour of Montreal once again
Sunday Sept 4th
12 noon-1:30 pm (90 min walking tour)
10 $ per person
reserve yourself a spot
optatif@gmail.com
please meet us at :
Bar le Midway
1219 Boul Saint-Laurent
Montreal, QC H2X 2S6
approx 20 mins prior to start of tour
Guides:Your cheerful hosts- Donovan King & Velma Candyass
Description:
Montreal’s Quartier des Spectacles is rising from the ashes of the storied old Red Light District, but the district has not entirely disappeared! This walk looks at the infamous Red Light District and attempts to “cleanse it”, from New France to Prohibition to the 21st Century and the Cultural War being waged between artists and developers.
Online: www.optative.net & www.savethemain.com
Why We Need a New C-389
As many know, Bill C-389 has died in the Senate with the election call. Thus, we now need to start working on getting it re-introduced.
Why?
Perhaps this image will give an idea.
This is a photo taken of me after I was physically assaulted in Richmond, Quebec, in 2006, for no other reason than being transsexual. You cannot see the damage they did to my hair – twisted literally into a knot that I had no choice but to cut it off. And the nailer? It was ME who got a ticket for “violence in public” for *defending myself*!
Also bring in the latest – a transwoman being attacked by two women in a McDonalds restaurant in Baltimore, while McDonalds employees FILMED it and ENCOURAGED them on.
This MUST change, and as someone who has been assaulted for being transsexual, I urge you to vote for a party that will encourage a law protecting gender identity, and treating such acts as a hate crime. Not one Conservative voted in favour, all the NDP and Bloc did, and even some Liberal members voted against.
There is protection for people based on race, sexual orientation, etc, but none for gender identity, except, oddly enough – the military.
We must change this. ALL must have the same rights. As it stands, trans do not.
Support/Soutien ALCCVA attende CANDYLAND!!!
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This Saturday 10pm in the Old Port!
Ice cream, candies, sweetness and the like: this is what a step in our world is all about! By attending our event, you help raise awareness and support for the new Alternative Lifestyles Community Centre (ALCCVA).
A perfect event for the curious (single or matched) person who is on a quest for new sensations and wants a first contact with fetishists and kinksters from all crowds. The educational mission of the community centre allows participants to get all kinds of information about the alternative lifestyles, BDSM practices and fetishes on the spot, and even the chance to experiment! A good way to step in unknown territories and learn about the other alternative events in a safe, open-minded and respectful context. No cameras or cell phones allowed. Denouncement is encouraged to protect the right to the private life of all attendees.
Come see by yourself if our girls are made of sugar & spice… At least, happy to see you, our boys will be wagging their puppy dog tails! ^^
Here is what we got for you in our candy store:
Play stations in the Play Space:
– Gummification *gummy wrapped for your pleasurable delight
-Jawbreaker wrestling area
-Sour Kids Humiliation station
-Electrified Pop Rocks station
-Licorice flogging station
-Lollypop spanking station
Entertainment throughout the party:
-Frou Frou’s Candygirl Show
-One Thousand and One Nights Massage Parlor
-Candy Stripper with all your favorite candy selections
-Sweet babe’s and butlers for your service needs
-Big Toe foot worshippers
-Hello Kitty Silent auction
Educational:
-ALCC-CCVA info people
-PM (Play Monitors) for safety
-Demonstrations and information at each station by trained representatives
Give Aways:
-Gift certificates from the ALCC-CCVA for free workshops
-Gift bag for all attendees with surprises from Joy Toyz, Rebound Chair, Cruella, RedRain, Magic Silk and others
DJ Phil Faith. Inscription au ALCC, chez Il Bolero et Cruella. Info ou bracelet aussi disponible au 514.816.5480 Code vestimentaire : fantaisiste, rose, lingerie, cuir, latex, burlesque, enfantin, Cosplay…
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Le temps du playparty saisonnier RedRain est enfin arrivé ! Dans une atmosphère plus joyeuse et “up tempo” que celle habituellement commandée par la fête des morts, venez encourager le tout nouveau Centre communautaire pour les modes de vie alternatifs (ALCC-CCVA).
Il s’agit de la soirée idéale pour initier les curieux (célibataires ou en couple) qui désirent pimenter leur vie en partageant une soirée avec des fétichistes de toutes les allégeances. Le mandat éducatif du centre communautaire permet d’offrir toutes les informations relatives aux pratiques alternatives, BDSM ou fétichistes sur place. Un premier pas pour entrer dans ce monde étrange, une occasion d’en apprendre plus sur les soirées grand public dans un univers intimiste, sécuritaire, ouvert et respectueux. Aucune caméra ou cellulaire autorisé sur place. La délation à ce sujet est même encouragée afin de garantir le droit à la vie privée.
Stations de jeu :
-Gommification *un enrobage des plus savoureux
-Arène de lutte des Casse-gueules
-Station surette d’humiliation
-Station d’électrification “Pop Rocks”
-Fouet(tage) de réglisse
-Fessées à grands coups de suçon
Activités :
-Frou Frou la Vendeuse de bonbons
-Salle de massage des Mille et une nuits
-Effeuilleuse de bonbons variés
-Serviteurs sucrés pour tous vos besoins
-Adorateurs de Pieds (rouges)
-Encan silencieux Hello Kitty
Éducatif :
-Personnel ressources du ALCC-CCVA
-Sécurité assurée par des PM (moniteurs de jeu)
– Démonstrations et de l’information à chaque station par les représentants qualifiés
Cadeaux :
-Certificats cadeaux du ALCC-CCVA pour des cliniques gratuites
-Sac cadeau pour tous les invités avec des surprises offertes par Joy Toyz, Rebound Chair, Cruella, RedRain, Magic Silk et autres.
DJ Phil Faith. Inscription au ALCC, chez Il Bolero et Cruella. Info ou bracelet aussi disponible au 514.816.5480 Code vestimentaire : fantaisiste, rose, lingerie, cuir, latex, burlesque, enfantin, Cosplay…
BDSM in the 1800′s
The amazing Tall Ships were in town here in Montreal a few weeks back and some of us from the ALCC-CCVA had the chance to go down and check it out.
You wouldn’t believe what we tripped on… many interesting facts about life aboard ships in the 1800’s. Don’t quote me on dates please! The photo above is from the Bounty and I was surprised at what I read. Take a moment to read it and pay special attention to the last paragraph!
It would seem that discipline was well enforced in those days to prevent mutiny. Didn’t work did it? Too bad!
As in many cultures and religious practices, many different types of BDSM was used in those days… read the photo above. Honestly, there were a million CRAZY things we discovered about the lives of sailors who battled the seas.
You’d of had to be a masochist to be a sailor in those days. That, or you’d just be whacked over the head and FORCED aboard. Unfortunately, they didn’t practice the SSCR-A (safe, sane, consentual, and risk-aware).
Imagine, having to make the very tool that is used to punish you!!! I really like this idea even though it is terrible. In the 21st century of BDSM, it’s a GREAT idea and I intend to use it!
Swap the deck scurvy slaves 😉
– Contessa Alura
Am I Queer?
X-posted from Lady Evyl
After watching and reviewing Billy Castro does the Mission I started asking myself….what is queer today? I knew it was nowhere near the original definition of it but this movie really had me asking myself that definition of queer seems quite larger than I remembered. Let’s investigate with Wikipedia…
A little history…
Since its emergence in the English language in the 16th century (related to the German quer, meaning “across, at right angle, diagonally or transverse”), queer has generally meant “strange,” “unusual,” or “out of alignment.” At this time it was still not associated with anything sexual. Only in the 19th century does the term start to gain its implication of sexual deviance, especially that of homosexual and/or effeminate males. Subsequently, for most of the 20th Century, “queer” was frequently used as a derogatory term for effeminate gay males who were believed to engage in receptive or passive anal/oral sex with men, and others exhibiting untraditional gender behavior.
Contemporary usage
Some use queer as an inclusive, unifying sociopolitical umbrella term for people who are gay, lesbian, bisexual, pansexual, transgender, transsexual, intersexual, genderqueer, or of any other non-heterosexual sexuality, sexual anatomy, or gender identity. It can also include asexual, autosexual people and those doing activities placing them outside of the heterosexual-defined mainstream such BDSM practitioners or polyamorous persons. In this usage it retains the historical connotation of “outside the bounds of normal society” and can be construed as “breaking the rules for sex and gender.” It can be preferred because of its ambiguity, which allows “queer”-identifying people to avoid the sometimes strict boundaries that surround other labels. In this context, “queer” is not a synonym for LGBT (gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender) as it creates a space for “queer” heterosexuals as well as “non-queer” homosexuals.
I consider myself heterosexual, maybe borderline heteroflexible. I have dommed women in sexual and non-sexual scenes. The sexual ones where not a sexual stimulus for me…the dominating part was. that ‘high’ comes from the shared energy of a scene with another human being, regardless of their sex. I have kissed maybe 3 women a bit more passionately only 1 made me a bit more curious, my mouth touched maybe 2 female breasts.
With my sexuality just now somewhat defined I never in my life thought I would qualify as queer, at least not before my new discoveries above. I am a BSDM practitioner and I practice activities outside of the heterosexual-defined mainstream. Me, queer? I am open and welcoming of anyone who tries anything sexually as long as it is of legal age and consensual. I have many queer friends. But for me, my personal sexuality, I can be old fashion. Me, queer. It is a weird pill to swallow at first but it is going down.
Some say fetishism and BDSM lifestylers are the next ones up on the sociological chopping block, joining the ranks of gays and lesbians to fight for our rights and be recognized by the government. In Montreal the A.L.C.C. is trying to do just that: get a public voice for alternative lifestylers that are described above as queer. It is the only organization of it’s kind in Canada that we know of and I am proud to be part of the team trying to get it off the ground. I guess the term queer will change some more as the decades go by and new people will be welcomed under this umbrella, even unexpectant members such as I. I AM QUEER!
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