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D/s Relationships Workshop

Another excellent workshop by Contessa Alura.  The D/s relation workshop is an excellent workshop for both beginners and more experienced people in the BDSM community.  Contessa went to great length to explain different types of both dominants and submissive.  Explaining the differences between the different types of relations.  She explained how to keep it going, rules and contracts and many other things.  She brought tears to my eyes.  An excellent workshop.  But it was too short since she stil had a lot of stuff to talk about.

– Gilles

Fabulous Polyamory Workshop!!! – Sept 11

A surprisingly BIG group for this workshop, with 11 people!

What great questions, great feedback.

Something I particularly enjoyed about this group was that everyone was coming from different perspectives. There were a few simply curious, others whom had pervious poly relationships that hadn’t worked out and who were there to seek advice or strategies for the future, and ohers still were questionsing from a D/s (dominant/submissive) perspective.

One person in particular spoke about a some of his own experiences and that started a great opening up and sharing in the room and encouraging other people to offer their stories.

I really appreciated ho everyone was involved in some way or another, it was really just great!

It was asked by many that we offer a more advanced Poly workshop to help answer specific questions that could not be addressed in a basic and informational workshop such as this one. We covered mostly terminology and an introduction to Polyamory. It seems there is more knowledge about the subject than I thought.

I know this wonderful triad (three person poly relationship) that is very close and living happily together that I hope they will agree to come and share their experiences with us. And then I just met this awesome quad (four person poly relationship) from Edmonton that would be great at offering a workshop… we shall have to see what will happen. It would be great to have a panel of people who can take questions and answer them from direct experience, especially if they are actively making their relationships work and doing well. I feel others would benefit from that kind of knowledge.

You’ll have to stay posted!

P.S. We were very fortunate that one of the attendees from this workshop decided to join our team as an official translator. We welcome Xavier aboard!!!

– Contessa Alura

D/s Relationships Workshop / D/s relations atelier – Aug 25

[La version française est ci-dessous]

The workshop had great attendance which told me this was a subject of interest in the public.

We covered as many types of D/s relationships and discussed the roles and responsibilities of each. There were good questions about how to get someone to know and express their interests if they are somewhat uncomfortable or uncertain. There were also some great suggestions, such as having the person seek out things of interest on the internet watching videos or reading stories to help understand their fantasies.

We talked a lot about sex in D/s relationships or lack thereof.

The group consisted of some already in D/s relationships, others who had recently ended one, one person who was curious, and a few others that were looking to really start one. One couple was interested in exploring D/s in the regular relationship and that gave me the opportunity to use their situation as a beginning relationship exploring the steps they might take and things they would need to discuss and agree on. That provided the rest of the group a better understanding by being able to ask them questions and also myself.

Thanks to everyone who attended and for your great questions and comments!

– Contessa Alura


Plusieurs personnes ont assisté à l’atelier! Ce qui veut dire que les relations de Domination /
soumission (D/s) intéressent beaucoup de gens.

Nous avons discuté de plusieurs types de relations D/s, ainsi que des rôles et responsabilités
de leurs adeptes. Plusieurs bonnes questions ont été posées, dont: comment connaître
quelqu’un; comment connaître ses objectifs; comment rassurer une personne incertaine ou
inconfortable, et ainsi de suite.

Plusieurs bonnes idées ont également été suggérées, dont l’utilisation de l’internet afin de
trouver des ressources ou de s’inspirer de la littérature pour ses fantasmes.

Nous avons aussi beaucoup parlé de sexe et de carences dans les relations D/s.

Parmi notre groupe, il y avait quelques personnes qui étaient déjà impliquées dans des
relations D/s, quelques autres qui avaient cessé de l’être, une personne qui était là par
curiosité et quelques autres qui souhaitaient développer une relation D/s. Un couple en
particulier souhaitait intégrer le concept D/s dans leur relation. Je me suis servi de leur
situation en tant qu’exemple d’une relation qui vient de commencer. J’ai présenté les étapes
qu’ils allaient franchir de toute probabilité et des discussions qui en suivraient surement.
C’était une discussion générale impliquant tous les membres du groupe.

Merci à tous et à toutes de vos questions et commentaires pértinents!

– Contessa Alura