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Bondage 201 Sunday Sept 18, 2011

Lord Saxnot gave his Bondage 201 workshop on Sunday, which was really changed to a 101 because the people that showed Read the rest of this entry

Saxnot’s Beginner’s BDSM Safety – Nov 7

Lord Saxnot's Workshop

As usual, Lord Saxnot’s workshop was filled with interesting stories which made his lessons hit home.  He created a very fun and relaxed learning atmosphere, while at the same time making some very important points on BDSM safety. This was a very important workshop for anyone new on the scene. Actually, experienced players could benefit from the class as well. Some of the topics included: Safety call, how to find safe and compatible play partners, public events, private events, emotional and physical safety, amongst others. If you want to find a BDSM play partner, in any capacity, then I cannot recommend this workshop highly enough.
– Petal

Contessa’s Breath Play & Dunter’s Strangulation Play – Sept 22

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Since there are many people out there engaging or experimenting in high-risk BDSM activities, Dunter and I felt it was important to offer workshops that explored them, the risks,  and consequences in an attempt to make them safer. With a bit of knowledge and some strategies for reducing the risk instead of increasing it, people could be more prepared to deal with emergency situations and also practice better/safer techniques. We also wanted to be clear that not everyone is capable of carrying out some of these types of edge play, that it is may not be appropriate to their personality, coordination, observation, etc.

It takes a very keen sense of observation and connection to your partner when you are doing breath play. The risk is possible death, the risk is injury and that is NOT what you want. It should be a high intense activity that brings pleasure in the end.

We decided to do back to back workshops. Mine on Air Restriction, Dunter’s on Circulation Restriction (strangulation).

The breath play workshop was awesome. Kinky K, my sexy assistant, allowed me to demonstrate various types and techniques of breath play. We demonstrated re-breathing, suffocation with plastic bags, saran wrap and simply the hand. We discussed the signs of needing air, what is too long, how to determine the length of time one can be held without breathing before it is dangerous. I physically put Kinky K in all the situations to show what it looks like so people see his reactions, his body and eyes, his movements.

We had time to do a quick activity so everyone had the chance to learn a bit about their own breathing. I had everyone take out a clock and time themselves on how long they could hold their breath. We did that three times in a row and took a moment to reflect on their times.

I had a really great tie and positive feedback about the workshop.

Thanks to everyone who attended!

– Contessa Alura

… Some of the photos from Dunter’s wokshop are posted below. We hope to have a posting about his workshop soon.

Beginners Flogging Workshop – Sept 7

I had a small group for his workshop, but a very enthusiastic one!

We looked at the various types of floggers and what they do, how the material of floggers change the feel and force of the impact, and how to move the body and wrists.

We talked about starting soft an incorporating sensuality in flogging. I often see people begin wailing on others or starting rough. If you like that, great, but there’s a lot to be said about starting slowly and softly to establish comfort and trust and then progressing to hard. Enjoy the journey I always say.

We talked about safety and areas NOT to flog with too much force. We covered warm-ups and getting the skin ready for flogging.

The students had a chance to practice some of the techniques we covered such as finding their wrists, and aim, by hitting the backs of chairs. Then we moved on to people. A big thank you to Glovesub for being our fabulous demo model and braving the newbie floggers. I was amazed to see how quickly some people progress and how others are truly naturals and just get it right away.

We will be doing an advanced flogging next month, learning how to Florentine (double handed flogging) and as well another basic course for those of you who missed this one.

– Contessa Alura